​12 Steps to Self-Care​

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​12 Steps to Self-Care​

Post by Harbhajan » Fri Nov 08, 2019 1:59 pm

​12 Steps to Self-Care​

Take these twelve basic steps to lovingly care for yourself:​

1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it​

Your unconscious mind tells you through your feelings if something is beneficial for you or not. Quite simply – if it feels wrong then refrain from doing it. All too often we find ourselves in compromising situations, usually with the nearest and dearest people who emotionally blackmail us into doings we are not entirely happy with. When this happens take a step back and take your time before refusing. Remind yourself that you have this right.​

2. Say “exactly” what you mean​

Sometimes our language can let us down as our communication level can be poor for whatever reason. So say what you really mean so that there is no doubt in other person’s mind where you are headed. Do not keep yourself in doubt. Try to be as articulate as you can.​

3. Don’t be a people pleaser​

When we please other people at the expense of displeasing our inner soul, we remain unhappy. Remember that you have to live with yourself at the end of the day and not with the person you have chosen to please at the expense of your own happiness. If you find yourself in a compromising situation remind yourself that you as a person come first.​

4. Trust your instincts​

Your instincts guide you to live a better life. If you go against your gut feelingsthen you are refusing the help of your higher self which knows what is best for you and is always guiding you to a better more fulfilled life. That feeling you ignore will continue to haunt you like a ghost until you face it.​

5. Never speak bad about yourself​

You blow your own trumpet – after all nobody else will do it for you. When you speak ill of yourself you are allowing other people a crack into your weakness. You are in effect discrediting yourself which puts other people off trusting you. Give yourself the credit that you deserve.​

6. Never give up on your dreams​

Your dreams are your future direction. When you lose sight of them you lose a sight of your future path. Your mind is giving you something to look forward to. You strive towards this. Your dreams allow you to escape your mundane life as well.​

7. Don’t be afraid to say “No”​

This is very closely linked to the “people-pleaser”. Use this word “no” when you really need to. Otherwise people will weigh you down with whatever they can. If you keep saying yes to everything, you will end up doing a lot of things you are unhappy with.​

8. Don’t be afraid to say “Yes”​

This one is for those who are afraid to try something new in life. Saying “no” to everything all the time closes doors on many opportunities. Sometimes it is beneficial to be ambition and say “yes” if you wish to bring positive changes into your life. You may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome of a “yes”.​

9. Be kind to yourself​

Kindness begins at home. All too often we tend to be kind to others but neglect ourselves. When we are kind to other people they feel happy – so why can we not feel happiness ourselves by being kind to ourselves?​

10. Let go of what you can’t control​

For the control freaks – and we have all been there! When you learn to relax and let everything happen around you as nature intended, you are achieving a closer connection with your higher sense of self. Sometimes horrible changes happen around us that we do not like – but you know what? if we trust that things will turn out for the best – they usually do – no matter how long it takes.​

11. Stay away from drama and negativity​

The younger we are the more caught up in emotional drama we get. Learn to step away from all the drama and view it all with a degree of detachment. The more drama we indulge in, the more negativity we allow into our lives. Drama can play havoc with our emotional states, mentally as well as physically. So choose to walk away from drama and negativity.​

12. LOVE​

Love is an emotion which fuels the positive state of life. By comparison, fear is an opposite emotion and encourages negative feelings to grow. When you love everything and everyone for what they are and sometimes it can be hard, you accept and become non-judgmental and relaxed because you feel happiness and acceptance.​

These are some the basics to living a calm and stress free life. Begin at home by treating yourself well and others will follow suit and before you know it, you will have achieved your successful full potential aims in life.​

" The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind."

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